Change of Focus

“You blind Pharisee!  First, clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean.”  Matthew 23:26


As the new year approaches, New Year’s Resolutions cloud my head.  I don’t want to make one, because sadly, I break them by the following week or the next day.  However, I decided that I do need to make a resolution, not just for this year, but for life.  My resolution is to change my focus.


This past holiday season was a little on the exhaustive side.  It felt very overwhelming.  I had a horrible attitude towards things and people.  That in turn, made things uncomfortable for my family.  There was a fight brewing between me and my husband that would have ruined Christmas.  He did nothing, it was me feeling angry in general and taking it out on him.


I texted my go to friend when I am in panic mode and told her my feelings.  Her response was almost, Jesus-like, in which she asked me a question rather than giving advice or joining me in my anger.  I listened to the questions and prayed.  I haven’t been praying much, because I have been feeling so helpless and angry, I had no words to pray.  But this time, I asked the Lord to help me have a pleasant time.  I heard, “change your focus and it will”.


In an instance, I felt the heaviness lift and my mind felt clear.  I apologized to my husband and told him things will be fine today.  He looked at me with an “are you sure?” expression and said, “I hope so.”  I am glad to say, the day was fine for all of us and I didn’t have any urge to complain or react in any anger.


Being negative all the time, isn’t something that goes away instantly. It does take a lot of practice. It is like undoing a really bad habit.  I know I have to give myself some slack because I have been this way for so long.  When I am around people who are angry or miserable about their own life, it spreads to me like a virus and I start feeling the same way.  


That is why that bible verse Philippians 4:8 is so valuable:

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”


Let many good thoughts and praise ring in this new year!  Happy New Year!


Lesson Learned:  When things feel like they are going wrong, let my focus change.
Prayer:  “Dear Heavenly Father, may I learn the value of the Philippians 4:8 verse.  Let us all be able to meditate on that verse for this new year!  Forgive me for staying negative on issues.   Holy Spirit give me the right words to pray.  Change my heart and mind’s thoughts when I feel angry or anxious.  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”

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