Trying to Fit In Can Hurt Instead

“You are the Light of the World, like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden.” Matthew 5:14

School.  If you look and act like everybody else, you won’t stand out and be weird.  You cannot be who God truly wants for you.  My daughter is 9 years old.  I can see already by her shopping choices that it is the same as her friends.  Recently she wanted something that she believed she needed.  However, it would have harmed her permanently if no one caught it.

My daughter and I went to the optometrist for our annual eye exams.  Thankfully, I still have 20/20 vision.  My eyes get tired and vision is a little blurry when I look at a computer screen for an extended period of time, so I wear glasses while at the computer.  

My daughter asked, “Will I be getting glasses like some of my friends?”  

I said, “I hope not, you don’t know how fortunate you are to not have to wear them.”  

She didn’t seem to thrilled by my answer.

I did my exam first and then my daughter.  The optometrist, Dr. Jones, asked her to read the last line that appeared clear to her on the chart.  She began reading the 20/50 line.  I thought, she was doing this on purpose.  She continued to read and squint while she tested.  The doctor asked her to read the lines below the 20/50.  And wouldn’t you know, she was reading them just fine.  Dr. Jones held up two little glass circles over my child’s eyes and asked her if she could see better through them.  My child exclaimed, “Yes!  Much better!”

Dr. Jones told her to stay seated while she spoke to me about insurance.  We stepped out of the room and she asked me, “Does she have friends with glasses?” I smiled and I nodded.

“Well, those little glasses I held up had no prescription in them.  I have seen this many times. Her vision is great.” said Dr. Jones.

We walked back in and she told her how she didn’t need glasses, but to keep seeing her every year.  My child, looked so disappointed.  I was trying not to laugh.

When we got home, we told my husband what happened.  I mention to him about the fake glasses and my daughter’s eyes got huge, realizing she got caught in the lie.  My husband explained to her that she could severely damage her eyesight wearing glasses when she didn’t need them.  

I told her, “I know your friends wear glasses and braces and you may feel left out because you do not need them.  But consider you extremely blessed to not need them now.  This is not a reason to fit in.”  

I realized in that moment, how often we all try to do this.  Here are some examples of this behavior: buying the newest tech gadget, play the new game on our phones (I don’t do this one) or watch the same entertainment shows and talk about them.  There is nothing wrong with having similar interests, but only if we truly like them.  

Being a Christian is definitely living a way that doesn’t fit into the norm.  With my faith, there are things I chose to not do so I don’t fit into with the world.  It is okay to not follow the world or trends just to be like everyone else.

I asked my daughter if she understood about how she doesn’t need to fit in.  She replied, “Can I wear two different earrings to school tomorrow?”  I think she got it.

Lesson Learned: The world needs individuals not conformists.


“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for not embracing who I truly am.  Thank you for all the things that make me different.  Give me the confidence to live as I am.  Spark creativity and new interests.  Thank Father!  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”

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