After I had my daughter, I experienced severe postpartum depression. I had a difficult pregnancy with pre-term labor, bed rest, and delivering four weeks early. I was in constant pain and not sleeping. And due to my daughter's low birth weight, I had to feed her every 2 hours. I could not give her a … Continue reading Protect Your Energy from Convincing People
One year ago today
One year ago today, you left this planet. I cannot bring myself to delete your phone number from my contacts. I keep your iCloud account active. I wished the days got easier, but they seemed to be getting harder. No words or platitudes help me. The first six months were a blur. I was distracted … Continue reading One year ago today
Stop Telling People What They Want Doesn’t Matter
I overhead the the franchise CEO at my real estate brokerage firm tell someone I was a broker's assistant. I'm actually the marketing manager of the group. I was upset that he did not know that. I mentioned this to my co-worker and she told me I should not care and it doesn't matter. It … Continue reading Stop Telling People What They Want Doesn’t Matter
Days Like These are Difficult
Credit: @ IG refugeingrief This is my first Father's Day without my dad here. It has been almost 5 months since his passing. There are days where the grief is unbearable. Today is one of them. I visited his grave today. As soon as I walked up to it I began to cry. I wanted … Continue reading Days Like These are Difficult
Lost Expectations
I expected 2022 to be better. I had great expectations for this year. I planned to write every single day. I wanted to use less plastic and commit myself to being fully minimalist, eating healthier, exercising and doing all that is good for the environment. Instead, my father passed away unexpectedly on January 31, 2022. … Continue reading Lost Expectations
Plan now not later
My dad is currently in the ICU due to Covid. Even being fully vaccinated and boosted, he is immunocompromised, so Covid is still overtaking him. The last week has been a whirlwind. Besides the nerve wracking experiences of watching someone you love deteriorate, I have to learn about the finances of a 46 year married … Continue reading Plan now not later
Feeling It All
Secretly, I enjoyed the slowness of life during the quarantine in 2020. I didn’t feel rushed or over-scheduled. However, since life has resumed since July 2021, I feel like a chicken with its head cut off. Although, if I am honest, I don’t want life to go back to the way it was, I want … Continue reading Feeling It All
Society vs. Reality
I turned 45 years old last week. I am well into mid-life. Every year, I try to get a sense if I am on the right path. I realize now that the "right path," especially regarding finances, has been society's expectations, not my reality. Upon researching where a 45-year-old should be regarding their finances, I … Continue reading Society vs. Reality
In Due Time
We witness generations before we accomplish many things. They got married and started families when they were in their 20s, purchased a home, had a secure full-time job with a pension and benefits. They retire wealthy, travel, and spoil their grandchildren. Nowadays, that is rarely the case. Everything costs more. Career switches happen more frequently, … Continue reading In Due Time
Let Today Be What it Needs to Be
Art and text by Morgan Harper Nichols I went to the store to look for Mother's Day cards for my mom and mother in law. I said out loud, "where are the cards that just say, 'Happy Mother's Day! Hope you have a great day!'?" There really aren't any. I am glad that many can … Continue reading Let Today Be What it Needs to Be